Almost exactly an hour ago I emailed my mum telling her I need space for a bit. It was an extremely difficult thing to do because it was admitting that I’ve lost her. I’ll write more on this tomorrow.
I found this article pretty helpful and reassuring though: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/20/health/20mind.html?_r=2&scp=1&sq=toxic%20parents&st=cse&
I hope you find it reassuring that you are in some cases right to end contact and that you aren’t weak or stupid or something for being devastated by the loss. I certainly am.